Wednesdays with The Spook Brothers: Ask Spook

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February 13, 2013 by Kriscinda Lee Everitt

Today on Ask Spook

RobinHubbyDear Spook Brothers-

My husband and I are currently locked in a heated debate over birthin’ our youngin’. I wanna do it at home (waterbirth), whereas my better half wants to keep with tradition by doing at the hospital. How can I convince him that my plan is the better one?

Thank you for your valuable time….Robin Fish

Dear Impregnated Meatbag,

This is a tough one. There is no single best way, we find, to prepare a baby. Some spooks like their baby well-done and thoroughly marinated; other spooks like their baby practically raw (which, if done right, is actually quite nice).

A hospital preparation and a home preparation can yield very different results. At a sterile hospital, you can probably count of a fairly simple style of baby—but don’t be deceived! A spare recipe, if handled well, often brings out the baby’s most succulent and subtle flavors. Whereas, with a home baby prep, there is more room to experiment with gravies and sauces (and let us tell you, there’s nothing quite like some down home cookin’).

We would suggest a compromise. Although both styles of cooking, generally, don’t like to mix techniques, you might find a good chef (what you meatbags might call a “doctor”) who would might like to try something new and daring. See if you can find one who’d be willing to prepare your baby in some water, in a hospital. That way, when the baby arrives (and they truly are best fresh), you and your meatbag husband can both enjoy your preferred baby meal. You may have to split the baby, which is less baby for the both of you, but if you’re lucky, there might be two! And then each can have one whole baby all to themselves (better unzip those pants!).

SpookLobster

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2 thoughts on “Wednesdays with The Spook Brothers: Ask Spook

  1. Linne says:

    I would have liked a home birth, but in my time that wasn’t an option. However, all of my five grandbabies were born at home; the first two with a midwife, the last three without. the second grandson was born breech (and with one leg up, one down!); the Mum is awesome; once they realized what was happening, she talked to the baby, telling it to slow down, and she calmly eased the wee one into this world. No problems of any kind. She was checked just a day before the birth and told the baby was safely head down; so I guess this little guy just had to have some say over how he joined the family.

    With the second-last grandchild (the last birth I was able to attend – mainly to help with the older children, but also as a resource if needed), we planned a waterbirth and had a borrowed tub ready; baby had her own mind made up, though (do you sense a pattern here? seems to run in the family!); she took less than an hour to make her appearance and there was no time to fill the tub; Mum was in full-blown labour almost immediately. But it all worked out and all the wee ones are happy, healthy and well-loved. They range in age from nearly 13 to nearly 1 year old.

    All that said, the decision to home-birth is very personal; parents need to be prepared for all eventualities and able to cope with unexpected challenges. The suggestion by Spook to have a waterbirth at the hospital might be a good compromise (and, please, don’t split the baby!); Dad will feel more supported and there will be expert help if needed. Challenges occur in all venues, really.

    Here in Edmonton, AB, there is at least one birthing centre that is equipped for waterbirthing. I have no idea what there might be where you live. I would suggest talking to other Mums who have recently delivered; see how their birth plans were respectetd (or not!) once they got to the hospital. Some staff are very respectful of parents’ wishes, but others are definitely not. I recommend having a doula (birth support person, in case you haven’t heard the term) who is aware of your wishes and who will stand up for you if needed. It’s very hard to resist ‘official’ pressure to do something you’d rather not, when you are in the final stages of labouring.

    We also have a great free magazine here “Birth Issues” that tells birth stories and also carries articles on various issues around birthing. You may have something like that where you are.

    I found reading Ina May Gaskin’s “Spiritual Midwifery” extremely helpful, especially as it deals with handling challenges as well as straightforward births. I highly recommend it. Also “Mothering the Mother”, a book about what doulas are and do. I always recommend it to dads as well as mothers; they often find it helpful to know exactly what they can do that supports you during labour.

    Hope some of this helps . . . ~ Linne

    • Kriscinda says:

      The Spooks are totally confused by everything you’re saying here, but we sort of expect that. Thanks for chiming in here, Linne. =) While it’s always good to get some culinary advice from our phantasmic friends, it’s even better when she can walk away with some solid advice. =)

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